Every Person is Broken
No one is perfect. We are all flawed. We all sin.
It is a hard reality. But it is one which should allow us to be kind to our self and others. This is probably the one thing I repeat to people over and over. It is a hard one to accept, especially for parents of young children. We all want to be the best parents and not to raise damaged children. And yet it cannot be avoided.
It is true that the people who can hurt us the deepest are the people we love the most. We cannot help ourselves, hurting and being hurt is a part of being human.
When you are relating to others, remember, they are broken.
How does my brokenness affect my reactions to their actions?
How does their brokenness affect their reactions to my actions?
It is true that the people who can hurt us the deepest are the people we love the most. We cannot help ourselves, hurting and being hurt is a part of being human.
When you are relating to others, remember, they are broken.
How does my brokenness affect my reactions to their actions?
How does their brokenness affect their reactions to my actions?
For childrenEveryone of us is a child of someone. Every one of us has wounds from our parents. And unless you were abused, those wounds were not inflicted on purpose.
Remember, your parents are/were broken people. They did the best they could. They made bad choices along the way. Hopefully they are sorry. Even if they are not, holding on to your anger and hurt is only hurting you. It is your job to forgive. This takes time. Consider counseling (personally I think everyone should spend some time in their lifetime in therapy). Be kind to yourself on that journey. |
For parentsIf you have been blessed with a child you know the fears that come with parenthood. Will I be good enough? Will I be strict enough? Will I be too strict? When I got upset today did I damage my child for life? The fact that you are asking these questions means you care, and a bad parent does not care.
The odds are high that whatever you think you did to hurt your child's spirit, they don't remember that! They are most likely wounded by something you don't remember doing. That is simply the way of human nature. It is your job as a parent to ask for forgiveness. It is also your job to forgive yourself. Lead by example- your children will learn best by seeing you:
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